Our
Journey into Toxic Injury:
My
husband, Domenic, and I became ill (very ill) shortly after moving into in a new
residence. Unbeknown to us, there were toxic chemicals that were
leaking/out-gassing and taking over our air space. Shortly after moving into
this recently remodeled property, we started noticing strange odors, sometimes
light but offensive, sometimes strong, sometimes unbearable.
We didn’t know at that time that we were being exposed to formaldehyde,
toluene, mold, asbestos, fuel oil and other toxins. In the beginning during an
absence from the home we would notice some improvement in our symptoms but upon
returning home we would soon, very soon be as ill or worse then before. This
happened for a while and then the time came there was no improvement upon
leaving the home.
Soon,
we started to also experience adverse reactions to odors/fumes from other things
like perfume, gasoline, and the detergent isle in the grocery store. The
deodorants, soaps, shampoos, clothes and other household and cleaning products
that we had used before were now causing us to become very ill. We would break
out with rashes and my hands would crack open and bleed. Domenic and I would
experience great difficulty breathing. It was as if an 18-wheeler had parked on
our chests. We became so ill that we could no longer enjoy going out to eat,
shop or socialize. It was a daily struggle just to survive. Life became … like
we were walking on a minefield. That home and its toxins had turned our lives
into a living hell.
Life
as we once knew it was gone, forever amputated!
As time went by we had more and more symptoms including but not limited
to: head, body, and joint aches and pains (usually severe) skin rashes and
dermatitis, Non-ending flu-like symptoms, dizziness, extreme fatigue, and
respiratory problems, mental confusion and short term memory lapses, increased
sensitivity to sound, light, colors/patterns, bloating and other intestinal
problems, heart palpitations, lack of coordination, stroke-like symptoms and the
list goes on.
After
years of watching Domenic struggle with the senseless pain & suffering
caused from what could have and should have been avoided, tragically &
unnecessarily Domenic’s life was prematurely ended, on January 3rd, 1999. On a
snowy winters day very unexpectedly, I lost my soul mate, the love of my life
and the father to my children. We
will always mourn the loss of his life, his presence, his laughter, his singing
and his hugs. Our children and I also miss the person that I was before those
toxic exposures completely devastated our lives as we not only lost a
wonderfully loving and compassionate husband and Pop but I also
lost my health, my freedom, been forced into living with constant pain, in
isolation and with upper & lower reactive airway dysfunction, brain toxic
encephalopathy, fibromyalgia, & chronic fatigue along with other serious
health issues
Much
pain & suffering has been forced into our lives by the careless acts of
others and many tears have been shed ~ tears for what was and will never be
again ~ tears for all the hopes & dreams that were permanently destroyed ~
tears for all that was so precious to us having been senselessly taken away ~
tears because this tragedy could have & should have easily been prevented.
As
our conditions continued to deteriorate Domenic and I had made a promise to one
another that if the Good Lord did not call us home together that who ever
remained would do all they could to prevent this horrible tragedy from happening
to other families.
The
loss of our health, family, friends, independence, economic productivity, the
health of our environment and natural resources will only continue to worsen if
we do not do something about it. . .Now!
The
water was, is a very important part of Domenic’s and my life. Besides being a
very talented carpenter, Domenic had his Captains’ license and was also a
Fisherman. We made our living off the New England waters. Our Foundations name
“MCS” Beacon of Hope is in memory of Domenic and our love affair with the
ocean. The lighthouse “beacon” signifies the way out of despair, shining
hope for those living with toxically/chemically induced illnesses and to let them know
someone cares and is working to bring hope, help and solutions back into their
lives.
Julia
(our daughter) & I continue to work to raise awareness & education as
preventative measures and we vow to send proclamations to each and every setting
president until we, the Toxically Injured receive the same support, rights and
recognition that has been allotted other illnesses & disabilities.
Our
hope is that through awareness and education the misdiagnoses, mistreatment and
discrimination against those with toxic injuries will cease, lives will be
saved, and other families will not have to know the depth of pain and suffering
Domenic had to endure and the incredible lost Julia, Joseph and I were left to
live with.
Domenic
and I had/have
the kind of love that prompted symphonies to be composed & poetry to
Domenic
was/is a very special person and just knowing him and having him a part (big
part) of our lives enriched us in ways no amount of money or treasures ever
could and we thank GOD daily for the time we had together here on earth. We
believe we come from a spiritual world and are having an earthly experience here
and will return to a spiritual world ~ ~ ~ Heaven!
They say you take your singing ability with you when you pass over, for some of us that is of great comfort to know that there will be singing in Heaven, in fact I can hear Domenic singing with others and filling Heaven with love, song and laughter ~ so even death here on earth doesn’t stop the kind of love he so graciously gave!
Domenic’s
Family,
Peggy, Julia and Joseph